This is all very interesting and relevant to me right now, because one of my major symptoms or issues related to my anxiety is that I beat myself up a LOT. I blame myself for lots of things which objectively are in NO WAY my fault, and for which I'd never assign blame if it was my loved ones. My best friend said this to me the other day: "I wish you could be as good a friend to yourself as you've been to me." It was eye-opening.