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Liz Lamb

Apr. 25th, 2021 09:03 pm
johncomic: (Sweets)
Every once in a blue moon, I find myself remembering Liz Lamb. Tonight happens to be one of those.

It was the summer of 1977 and I was working a summer job, part-time night shift as a gas station cashier. 11pm to 7 am, Fri and Sat nights, as I recall. It was a pretty quiet gig, but at least I was allowed to listen to the radio and allowed to read while on duty. I don't think I ever nodded off on the job. I also remember spending a lot of my time re-reading a biography of Marc Bolan, whom I had just gotten into.

A lot of the details have gotten sketchy and dubious, but here are some. This one night in late August, right near the start of my shift, this slim pretty redhead comes up to pay for her gas. She's very friendly and outgoing and charming, and somehow we end up talking a fair bit longer than her purchase actually required. The next night, she came back, to buy much less gas, and we talked even longer. Fortunately no other customers came by during these times to interrupt us. And this time, before she goes, she tells me that she'd like to take me out to dinner. So I let her know where to pick me up, we arranged a time during the week, and off she went.

I remember my mom thought this was all rather odd. TBH so did I. But I went.

She took me for a fairly late meal at a local restaurant. I remember we drank Mateus, which I had never had before, and I had a fair bit of it. (At one point I was sitting in a stall in the restroom and I could feel the room turning head over heels.) Then she wanted us to go hang at a friend's place out on the edge of town. We got there, and before we went in we spent a little while necking against her car. At one point I had her bent back onto the hood, my hands wandering over her. When we got in, there were a few guys in the house, Liz was the only girl, and I sat in a corner of a couch, very quiet. As I recall, they were smoking up a bit, which I didn't touch yet. At least there were tunes, which were okay, but TBH I was pretty bored. 

Finally she drove me home, and there was a small good night kiss, but I don't recall anything being said about doing this again. In part, I guess, because we were both set to leave town and go off to school in the very near future, and we both knew that we both knew. So that's really all there was to it.

The main reason I keep thinking about this is just the strangeness of a beautiful stranger asking me out. I mean, to me she looked like the sort of woman who could have anyone she wanted. And I certainly wasn't all that.

And yet she seemed to want me. And yet only sorta. I really don't know what prompted her. And I also wonder when [and how much] she regretted doing it, after all. But yeah, it made me feel attractive for a while, in a way that few events and few people have done, either before or since.

Sometimes I wonder where she is, how she's doing. Whatever happened to her. And does she remember me, and, if so, how. I doubt I will ever know.

TIL

Jun. 3rd, 2020 10:01 am
johncomic: (Dawn French)
I've recently been rereading my novels to A) try and get back in gear for my next one and B) reacquaint myself with characters who are due to reappear. My books are rarely sexually explicit, but last night I was reading what is [so far] my only prolonged [chapter-length] sex scene, and something clicked with me. Something not just about how I write, but how I am.

Sex is something I revere

When I describe it, I describe it with reverence and respect. Not meaning coyly, with Victorian euphemisms or whatnot, but with an awareness of the spiritual beauty of its intense physical pleasures. And this got me thinking about how out of touch I feel with my culture at large, at least as it reveals itself to me online, which is where most of my interactions happen these days.

I find it distasteful when other people use childish or silly language to describe sexual things. Some people's sex scenes make me feel like I stepped in something when I read them, just because of their tone. It isn't the sex per se that disturbs me -- I'm not a prude -- but rather the "pearls before swine" disrespect. Similarly, degradation of any sort has no place in sex as far as I'm concerned -- worship is more like what feels natural to me. On a bad day, it even seems to me that saying that sex is "fun" runs the risk of trivializing it. But that's just me.

I'm not saying my way is better, just that I know what works for me and what doesn't. Not saying that people aren't free to like what they like. If people mutually enjoy calling their body parts stupid names or talking to each other like enemies, then so be it. My point is more that I feel so out of touch, all at sea on the ocean of sexuality. I see almost no representation of my perspective from anyone else out there. Is it a generational thing? Is the romantic point of view inherently quieter?

I dunno. But I have no plans to change my slant on it to get in tune with everyone else. I remain a stubborn cuss to the end.

johncomic: (Dawn French)
Day 9: A song that makes you want to h*ve s*x

Los Desperados by Gato Barbieri

In the late 70s, I knew someone who used Gato's Caliente! album as her Sex Soundtrack®. And, timing being what it is, when this song played was also usually around the time that at least one of us was cumming. So for me this song became The Sound of Orgasm®. Also, Gary King's bass playing is succulent.
johncomic: (The Mighty Scott)
Day 3: Your favorite post-breakup song

Maybe You'll Be There as recorded by Diana Krall

It's not that I associate this song with any particular breakup, but I find it does a great job of capturing my feeling in general. Diana's version is, for me, particularly touching. Some people dismiss her as being too commercial, on account of her phenomenal success, but when I listened to her work closely, I found more genuine quality and depth than I went in expecting. She clicks with me.
johncomic: (Frank)
looking back on my obsessions )
johncomic: (Face of Boe)
On more than one occasion, Barbara has remarked to me something along the lines of "you are such a loving person", and she says it in such a way as to imply that she means unusually so, more than she is used to seeing. And I do feel like that is a large part of who I am, both a romantic and a humanitarian. That being said, I had a strange spontaneous moment this morning:

While out driving alone this morning, I was consciously enjoying the peace (enhanced by the sunny beauty of the day). And I got thinking about how often lately I have been savouring peaceful moments when I find them, and making more efforts to seek those out. And thinking further about how important peace has become in my life. And then I had a sudden flash, an awareness of something shapeless but along the lines of: Peace is even more important than love. If I could only have love or peace in my life, never both, and had to choose, I would choose peace.

I never expected to find that in myself. And I don't know for sure that it's true. But it came up on its own, and it came from somewhere. I'm wondering if it was another spontaneous flash of non-attachment, similar to what I wrote about previously. Once again, I will need to sit with this...

johncomic: (Uncle Old Guy)
 the people I love, and the people who love me... with an extra tweak of gratitude for that place in my Venn diagram where those two circles intersect
johncomic: (piggy family)
Meeting Sharon -- which happened on this date thirty-five years ago. Here's hoping for thirty-five more!
johncomic: (piggy family)
Getting the day off on our anniversary -- woot!
johncomic: (piggy family)
[I bet I do this one every year, but oh well, I'm sure we'll all manage just fine]:   

I am grateful for my wife Sharon, who celebrates her birthday today.  The best things in my life are [still] her, and our kids (which I wouldn't have without her) -- so she gets double bonus points for being here!  xoxox
johncomic: (happy piggy)
Love!  All the people that I love... all the people who love me... the swellness when those two manage to intersect and create a joyous Venn diagram...  all that sutff!
johncomic: (piggy family)
Sharon and I have wallowed in the good days, and soldiered through the bad days, together for twenty-nine (official) years now.
johncomic: (piggy family)
Coffee on the back deck in the morning shade with my missus.
johncomic: (piggy family)
My companion and life partner Sharon, who celebrates her [mumble-umble] birthday today -- she is The Best®!
johncomic: (Gene Hunt)
[Error: unknown template qotd]Whoever asked the other one out!
johncomic: (piggy family)
There have been rare people in my life whom I have considered companions. For me, the word has connotations including things like “welcoming the sight of them every day” and “wanting to hear the mundane quotidian details of their lives” and “always eventually finding a way to resolve differences somehow”. When I was in high school, for example, my friend Cheech was such a companion. Today, although we are separated by thousands of miles and months of silences, I still consider him one of my best friends.

Since I met Sharon, she has been my companion, and all that that implies. She deigned to marry me on this date twenty-eight years ago, and I remain deeply grateful that she did.
johncomic: (Default)
[Error: unknown template qotd]Caught in Her Spell by Lynx -- not sure if I could clearly explain why, though.
johncomic: (piggy family)
Oxytocin.
johncomic: (Dawn French)
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Yes. And yes.
johncomic: (Default)
Yoinked from [livejournal.com profile] etantvert:

Put this list in the order it occurred in your life:

Get married
Buy a house
Get Pregnant
Have baby #1
Have baby #2
Have baby #3
Have baby #4
Graduate college
Graduate high school
Meet significant other
Meet who you hoped was your significant other but wasn’t
Move out of parent’s house for good
Start college
Become gainfully employed
Buy a car
Get drunk for the first time
Get a cell phone
Get divorced


Here goes mine:

Meet who you hoped was your significant other but wasn’t
Graduate high school
Start college
Get drunk for the first time
Graduate college
Meet significant other
Move out of parent’s house for good
Get married
Become gainfully employed
Get Pregnant
Buy a house
Have baby #1
Have baby #2
Buy a car
Get a cell phone

Have baby #3
Have baby #4
Get divorced

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