Writer's Block: Kids or child-free?
Mar. 10th, 2010 11:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
johncomic[Error: unknown template qotd]When I was in high school I decided that I would not have children. After I got my BA, I met my wife-to-be, who had also previously decided that she would not have children. This is part of what made us a good match.
About eight years later, though, she changed her mind. And then spent a couple of years trying to get me to change my mind*. After which time she succeeded, and then we had the first of our two children.
I guess my point is that, as long as you are able to have children, you could still decide to have them. So it can be hard to say that you have “reached” the decision not to.
* [For those wondering: she eventually got me to see that it wasn't that I disliked children, it was that I was afraid to have them: afraid that I wouldn't do a good job. She convinced me that I would do good. And it turns out she was right, I did.]
About eight years later, though, she changed her mind. And then spent a couple of years trying to get me to change my mind*. After which time she succeeded, and then we had the first of our two children.
I guess my point is that, as long as you are able to have children, you could still decide to have them. So it can be hard to say that you have “reached” the decision not to.
* [For those wondering: she eventually got me to see that it wasn't that I disliked children, it was that I was afraid to have them: afraid that I wouldn't do a good job. She convinced me that I would do good. And it turns out she was right, I did.]
