something I am grateful for today
Sep. 15th, 2023 09:49 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
johncomica surprising insight
Was talking with a friend today, and I expressed a feminist opinion which isn't often heard from men. And they said, “Well, you're an exception... and your exceptions are part of what I like about you.”
I then said that, rather than be called an exception [because that has connotations of being exceptional, which I ain't], I preferred to think of myself as an outlier, because that sounds more like “odd”. But then I said, “I'm okay with my oddness, though — if I could change and be more normal, I don't think I would.”
And, in retrospect, this took me somewhat aback. After a lifetime of being intensely self-critical, I suddenly found myself speaking up for myself: admitting to myself as well as my friend that I am basically content with how I turned out. There are a few things I wish I was better at, but overall there isn't really much about myself I would change.
It's almost like these feelings caught me by surprise, I have no idea where they came from... but I like them, and I need to remember this place of self-acceptance that I found myself in today.
Was talking with a friend today, and I expressed a feminist opinion which isn't often heard from men. And they said, “Well, you're an exception... and your exceptions are part of what I like about you.”
I then said that, rather than be called an exception [because that has connotations of being exceptional, which I ain't], I preferred to think of myself as an outlier, because that sounds more like “odd”. But then I said, “I'm okay with my oddness, though — if I could change and be more normal, I don't think I would.”
And, in retrospect, this took me somewhat aback. After a lifetime of being intensely self-critical, I suddenly found myself speaking up for myself: admitting to myself as well as my friend that I am basically content with how I turned out. There are a few things I wish I was better at, but overall there isn't really much about myself I would change.
It's almost like these feelings caught me by surprise, I have no idea where they came from... but I like them, and I need to remember this place of self-acceptance that I found myself in today.
